Thursday, August 11, 2011

Why do YOU want children?? Part I

I've been asking individuals in my circle, why they want to procreate. I was asking this because personally, I do not see a logical, beneficial reason to have a child. I'm coming from this point of view: Struggles are plentiful on Earth. Life is mostly hard, some good, and the rest we forget. There are debt crises, wars, MTV, and all kinds of religious, racial, and sexual persecution. And I want to be responsible for bringing an innocent human into all of that. Yes, there are good things about the world, but I'm more concerned with changing it now instead of hoping my offspring will/can change the world. That's a lot of responsibility to put on someone who never even asked to be here. It strikes me as odd that people are so hopeful that their children can/will change the world but they aren't working to enact that change now, in their own lives.

Additionally, in my small survey, I noticed individual's reasons for wanting children were quite selfish (in my opinion). They want to pass on themselves to another human in hopes of leaving their mark on the world. They want it to be know how great THEY are, through the actions and accomplishments of their children. Now I think I'm just as cool as the next kid, but for some reason I'm not interested in another human carrying on "my legacy." I would much rather be published or leave fond memories with those I care about.

When thinking about the possibility of having children, I think of all kinds of obstacles such as:
1. Gender socialization - I wouldn't want to socialize my children in the traditional American fashion. I don't like the diachotomic nature of this country where its boy or girl, heterosexual or homosexual, right or wrong. I don't like checking boxes and I wouldn't want to place my child into any of them. But with the way I was socialized, how do I not?
2. How will they be educated?
3. I wouldnt plan on having kids without first being financially stable, but then, how do my kids learn the value of a dollar and the struggles of poverty, being without, and working hard without having to? I would want my kids to have character and be strong and resourceful like me, but they wont have to go through the struggles I did, so how are they supposed to learn all this?
4. When they get jobs, their hard earned money will be going to pay off the 2008 bailout... Thats not fair, they had nothing to do w/ that.
5. What if I cant deal with any disorders of diseases they may be born with? People like to assume they will be born with healthy children, but what if they're not?

These are just a few of the things I think about when thinking about filling my uterus with a life. I can only hope others think about these things as they are important.

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